on relationships

tony: moo
annie: yeah! we used to have cows around uni!
ny: really? where are they now?
annie: angie came along and ate them all!
ny: hahahahahahahaha that is so something angie would do

* all three start laughing

angie: huh, what the fudge?!!!

my darling annie and i! (stupid mouse pointer, i look like i have a massive mole!)

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one of my favourite books is 'conversations with god', written by neale donald walsch. as the title suggest, it is a conversation and so the book is written in dialogue form. all my life i have always been inquisitive and curious about life, the universe and everything in it. this my friends, is the perfect book for those who are as curious about things as i am.

however, i do urge that potential readers will approach this book with an open mind, as the whole book contains sensitive content. and just for the record, i am not a christian, nor catholic, nor any other religion for that matter. i have my own 'god' and my personal beliefs on how the universe works.

from time to time, i will extract certain passages that i find interesting enough to share with my fellow readers. i hope these excerpts will provide a little more insight and understanding into why things are they way they are.

excerpt from conversations with god - book 1

relationships

most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them.

the purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of youreself you'd like to see "show up," not what part of another you can capture and hold.

adorable

make sure you get into a relationship for the right reasons. most people still enter relationships for the "wrong" reasons - to end loneliness, fill a gap, bring themselves love, or someone to love - and those are some of the better reasons. others do so to salve their ego, end their depressions, improve their sex life, recover from a previous relationship, or, believe it or not, to relieve boredom.

none of these reasons will work, and unless something dramatic changes along the way, neither will the relationship.

a famous painting: 'the kiss' by gustav klimt

it is very romantic to say that you were "nothing" until that special other came along, but it is not true. worse, it puts an incredible pressure on the other to be all sorts of things he or she is not. not wanting to "let you down," they try very hard to be and do these things until they cannot anymore. they can no longer complete your picture of them. they can no longer fill the roles to which they have been assigned. resentment builds. anger follows.

it is very romantic to say that now that your special other has entered your life, you feel complete. yet the purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.

never do anything in a relationship out of a sense of obligation. do whatever you do out of a sense of the glorious opportunity your relationship affords you to decide, and to be, who you really are.

know and understand that there will be challenges and difficult times. don't try to avoid them. welcome them. gratefully. see them as grand gifts from god; glorious opportunities to do what you came into the relationship - and life - to do. try very hard not to see your partner as the enemy, or the opposition, during these times. in fact, seek to see no one, and nothing, as the enemy - or even the problem. cultivate the technique of seeing all problems as opportunities. opportunities to be, and decide, who you really are.